Parents should not approve that their child hits them and they really need to make pretty clear how unacceptable that behavior is. Being aware of the reason will help you have a good reaction. Before anything else, be aware that a little one hitting doesn't wish to physically hurt. Hitting seriously is a mean of expression when he is angry or unhappy. You have to establish in his mind what is wrong. It's the only way he will understand it.
You won't get many improvement by saying "No" to something wrong he does. The things you need are the good communication tools to make your child stop hitting for good.
When a child hits, his mother and father very often react impulsively and yell at him, show they are furious or even spank him. I really want to make clear that hitting a kid, spanking him, will just make him understand that there is nothing wrong with hitting you when he is angry.
The crucial advice I advise you to apply when your child hits you is this:
* Rather than showing your ANGER, show your child that you're HURT. Your vulnerability will help him see you're just like him and it will most of all make clear the real outcomes of his impulsive reaction. See this situation as a chance to teach compassion to your kid.
I want to clarify my advice:
Whenever your child hits you, stay calm and make a sad face that shows you're hurt and shocked by his behaviour. Tell him: "You hurt me! Actually it does hurt when you hit me, I'm not kidding here. Do I hit you? No. I love you. I am sad you hit me." You can exagerate of course but remain serious. It truly matters. You'll see a completely different reaction in your child then. Simply tell him that his anger or frustration are NORMAL feelings but that he has to communicate them with words exclusively. Give him an example of what he could have said instead. Teach him how to react differently or he might hit you again for the same reasons.
Each bad behaviour such as this one needs to be taken seriously. If you do not solve it, you'll find it tough to take the control back when your kid develops a hitting habit. For now, the fact that your child hits you now and then probably is a trivial issue and that's actually why you really have to stop it now. You don't want your little one to turn into a teen who hits when he's overwhelmed by his emotions. Applying a parenting method can be a very good initiative as it can give you and your child the guideline and support you need to put an end to such habit.
Author Resource:-
"One Easy Step to Take If Your Child Hits You !" is written by Laura Kaine , the mother of June (10) and Jack (4). She shares her knowledge online as an expert parenting writer.
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